“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand brake on.”
— Maxwell Maltz
Nobody is born with limitless self-confidence. If someone seems to have an incredible amount of self-confidence, it’s most likely something he or she has worked on building for years.
Self-confidence is something we need to learn to build up because the challenging world of business or various setbacks in life may deflate it.
We often find ourselves dealing with our inner critic of self-doubt that constantly tells us that we’re not good enough. When bombarded by many elements that threaten our self-confidence, we need to take charge of building it up for ourselves.
Confident people tend to work more happily, and are not afraid to put themselves up for promotion or take on new challenges.
Here are some useful tips you may apply to immediately boost your confidence as an individual.
1. Visualize yourself as the version you want
“What the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.”
— Napoleon Hill
Visualization is the technique of seeing an image of yourself that you are proud of, in your own mind. When we struggle with low self-confidence, we have a poor perception of ourselves that is often inaccurate. Practice visualizing a fantastic version of yourself, achieving your goals.
2. Eliminate negative self-talk
“Your negative self-talk is like a virus that infects your self-esteem and self-confidence.”
– Jerry Bruckner
No one ever improve at anything by beating themselves up. Sometimes, it’s the very language we use which limits us.
If you find yourself frequently telling yourself, “I can’t…”, you’ll find that by doing so, you are in fact closing your mind to solutions. Instead, you should ask yourself: “How could I…?” Finding effective solutions will boost your confidence greatly.
Another frequent trap is when people use the word “but” in their communication, which imposes unnecessary limitations on them. Stop saying “but” or including it in your sentences, and notice how you can get more done if you make an effort, more than making excuses.
3. Affirm Yourself
“Affirmations are a powerful tool to deliberately install desired beliefs about yourself.”
— Nikki Carnevale
Now that we have cut out negative self-talk from our lives, we need to fill this empty space with positive affirmations of ourselves.
We tend to behave in accordance with our own self-image. Therefore, the trick to making lasting change is to change how you view yourself.
Affirmations are positive and uplifting statements that we say to ourselves. These are normally more effective if said out loud so that you can hear yourself say it. We tend to believe whatever we tell ourselves constantly. For example, if you hate your own physical appearance, practice saying something that you appreciate or like about yourself when you next look in the mirror.
To get your brain to accept your positive statements more quickly, phrase your affirmations as questions such as, “Why am I so good at making deals?” instead of “I am so good at making deals.” Our brains are biologically wired to seek answers to questions, without analyzing whether the question is valid or not.
4. Boost your knowledge – Never stop learning!
“Knowledge, like air, is vital to life. Like air, no one should be denied it.”
– Alan Moore
A sure-fire way of being more certain of what you’re doing is to learn more. Confidence comes naturally when you’re skilled in that field. Begin by reading up on the latest research to enhance your knowledge. Knowing how and why certain practices and processes work will definitely boost confidence in your ability to do them.